Parental Responsibility

Brothers, today's khutbah is special, as it is about the responsibility upon the parents in Islam.

Brothers, before addressing the main subject of this khutbah, let me remind you and myself, that the need of heart and soul for knowledge is greater than the need of earth for rain, the Khateeb has used rain as a similitude, an example, as the rain is a must for the earth, as without rain the earth would be barren, without greenery or in essence even life, similarly the Soul and the Heart of man also needs Knowledge, knowledge seeping through the brain into the soul, without legitimate knowledge, especially knowledge that helps to understand the Creator first and foremost and secondly knowledge that informs us how to please our creator, through fulfilling his rights and honoring and respecting His creation on this Earth. Without knowledge and the strive for knowledge the heart and the soul can become lazy, the heart can become cruel and evil. Which then leads to disobedience to Allah swt. May Allah swt protect us from this and strengthen our soul through knowledge in His book and the Sunnah of the Prophet Mohammed.

So Brothers through this knowledge and guidance, a great community can be created for our children and future generation. Know that a Muslim home is the first habitation that prepares and manufactures great men and women. Hence Islam has committed husband and wife to a shared responsibility towards these innocent beings who are under their Guardianship as Parents, and it’s on us the responsibility of their upbringing. This great responsibility is on both the parents, both protect, nurture, coach, rebuke and admonish accordingly to develop a child to the best of his/her abilities,  if this responsibility is taken seriously by every parent as a fundamental duty, then great communities are born with  good men and women, with a moral fabric, consciousness of Allah and care for Allah’s creation.

We can think about this in a different way, if we truly believe in Allah. If we are successful in up bring our children with a strong belief in Allah, an ability to differentiate between Good and Evil, an ability to control their desires and the will to do good to Allah’s creation including parents, then there is a good chance, Allah swt with His mercy will grant them Jannah, hence we as parents have succeeded. On the other hand the opposite could be that we failed shamefully, when we have disobedient children, not in control of their desires and openly rebellious to Allah and openly hostile to His creation, including the parents, then through Allah’s justice their end will be the Hell fire. The point of this stark example is that when we are bringing up our children our goal shouldn’t just be the success in this worlds, because the ultimate success is the success of the hereafter.

Ibn 'Umar (May Allah be pleased with them) reported: I heard Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) saying, "All of you are guardians and are responsible for your subjects. The ruler is a guardian and responsible for his subjects; the man is a guardian and responsible for his family; the woman is a guardian and is responsible for her husband’s house and his offspring; and so all of you are guardians and are responsible for your wards." [Al-Bukhari and Muslim]

My brothers, this hadith is one of the great principles of Islam, even counted by some scholars as a quarter of Islam, because it identified a clear role for each in his position, you are responsible not only as a father;  saying "I want kids to play, dance and walk with them,". It is not in your hand, you are a father in order to be accountable to Allah for the graduation of a Muslim generation. Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said, "When a man dies, his deeds come to an end except for three things: Sadaqah Jariyah (ceaseless charity); a knowledge which is beneficial, or a virtuous descendant who prays for him (for the deceased)." [Muslim]. This hadith is very clear, we can do good deeds now, repent and amend our ways, but when we are dead, there are three doors still left open, ceaseless charity (Masjid, Madrasa ,Water Well,etc) Knowledge, having taught anyone legitimate knowledge, especially if your children were the recipients of that knowledge and they further apply it in their lives and the lives of others. Last door is Virtuous children, all the good deeds they do or their future generations do with have a share for you, SubhanAllah.

The question is will our children attain success through spending endless time on the TV, playing on PS4/ Xbox, spending hours on their phones, we and even the children know in their hearts that this is undoubtedly a recipe for disaster and failure in the sight of Allah. Resulting in Muslims spending a few more generations in humiliation and fitna that we are in today.

My brothers, do you know what is the real upbringing? Do you understand that your role in education is only the role of nutrition, treatment, clothing, recreation and employment? To give all your focus to these sides with ignoring the major part in the upbringing of your children; which is raising of these children on the Book of Allah and the Sunnah of His Messenger (peace & blessings be upon him). The Almighty says in Surat al Tahrim (verse (6)); “O you who have believed, protect yourselves and your families from a Fire whose fuel is people and stones, over which are [appointed] angels, harsh and severe; they do not disobey Allah in what He commands them but do what they are commanded”. Insha’Allah in the future we will talk more on this subject as its far from finished and needs lots of focus in order for us to raise a generation that would be useful for our day of the hereafter.